It’s 5:40am and I am now just laying in my bed. Waiting for a reasonable time to get up. I’m an early riser and always have been and no need for coffee to kick start my day.
So laying here I am reviewing where I am, how I feel and what are me next steps. Two of my biggest struggles was my uncontrollable anxieties towards my blood pressure and the feeling of overwhelm at work and home.
It feels great to be calm, happy and in control of my feelings and mind. I am a believer of self-help. There are professionals out there, that are trained help you get to a place of self-expectance, overcome fear, unhappiness, lack of motivation they all there and available. It’s generally up to us to make the first move to find the help.
Here are my few suggestions that helped me recover:
1) LOVE AND BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF
Oh I know the feeling of looking in the mirror and not liking what I see. Flat breasts, mum tummy. The two fundamental body parts that bore and feed my kids but the human mind sometimes oversee these facts and we self-sabotage.
Even with my achievements professionally I still felt stupid when I felt I disappointed in myself and worse I told myself that too so many times.
I worked hard to change my perception of myself. I saw a life coach that helped me deal with my emotions and resentments. Once you accept yourself for the person you are at the moment will you find inner peace.
Recognise when you feel tired, stressed out, fatigue or snapping at the kids or hubby. This is the time when you need to step back and slow down. Give yourself time to rest and generate energy. Go for a blowdry, manicure or a glass of wine with a friend. No car or machine can function without fuel. The same for you Mama. To use your 100 arms to manage work, family, social life you need to make time for yourself to recoup.
At the moment I am reading Becoming Michelle Obama. Even just two pages makes all the difference to get my mind and body to relax.
I started to meditate a few months ago and the difference I see is phenomenal. When I don’t have time I only do it for 3 minutes, the aim of to be consistent.
My stress and anxiety levels reduced. To except what is and be present is now my way of life. Through meditation I learned not to stress about tomorrow because I don’t know what it will be like, I have not seen it. For today I learned to embrace as it comes. I do believe what will be, will be. I use headspace app on my phone
Sleep is our reset button. 8 hour sleep nights reduce high blood pressure, stress
This is one I’m still working on. I do fall into a deep sleep but I always wake up in the middle of the night either to use the toilet or my mind just full of thoughts. I do know once I get into a habit of sleeping for 8 hours I will have optimal blood pressure readings! So here’s my prayers!!!
Whether in your bedroom or a walk outside in nature. Improved self-esteem is a key phycological benefit of regular physical activity. When you exercise, your body released chemicals called endorphins. These endorphins interact with the receptors in your brain they reduce your perception of pain and stress.
In Hong Kong gyms are extremely expensive and they try and lock you in for 2 years. Generally I go for my walk and on alternative days I use Bodyboss online fitness program in my living room. Because of my high blood pressure I do modify the exercises to be a bit more gentle.
6) CONNECTION WITH YOURSELF AND PARTNER
Inner connection with oneself I find so important. When I go on my walks I always touch the tree leaves, I love the feeling of the energy flowing through me and back into the ground connecting with Mother Earth. I have this weird desire to hug a tree and just stand there for awhile, I have not found my tree yet and at the moment I’m scared of snakes sneaking up on me.
When I was in state of burnout my husband was there every step of the way. A shoulder to cry on and there were many tears, I tell you. Someone that believe in you and provide reassurance when you don’t see your strength in those moments.
We love long hugs and kisses. I do wish we have sex more often but between tiredness from work, messing around on phones and kids going to bed late it often awaits a lucky Sunday morning.
7) QUALITY TIME WITH MY KIDS
In the morning after my morning routine or in the evening after work, I like to take the boys for a walk around the block. We sing songs, jump over cracks in the road or dip our feet in the water by the jetty close by the house.
I love this time with them and since they can talk now encourage me to take them for a walk.
To keep with the routine I have chosen very basic lifestyle changes than I can stick to. When you start doing these often, it becomes a habit and good habits are easy to follow through.
What are you reading at the moment? What do you do to bring balance in your life? I would love to hear your suggestions.
Happy week ahead!